sex anal

Hey gals and perhaps guys. It's a lengthy one, but I'm hoping it's also a good one and a "real" one.

I'm gay, so I'll just get that much out of the way. I've been having anal sex for about two years with my same boyfriend, and what will follow will be all the terrible and then the very great experiences that I've had with anal sex. To drive the point home - there's a reason why I'm still having it haha. However, as it's been said, it's really not for everyone.

But first things first:

THE CLEANING:

Sure you can get away without cleaning, but don't be surprised if you get more coming out than going in if you don't clean. Usually you can tell if somethings coming up, but I will say that on more than one occasion me and my boyfriend have had to stop midway because of the unpleasant idea of ...well, s**t (we're all, presumably, adults here, we can handle this I hope.) So cleaning is more than just recommended or encouraged, it's an implied must.

So what to do? What posters around here have said is all good...most of it.

If you have one of those bidets or shower heads that you can remove and hopefully use while sitting in the toilet that's perfect, it's less messy, but you really have to ignore to the best of your ability that you will see something. It's not a clean experience. It's not looking at a Monet or a Van Gogh. The quicker you build your mind past that, the quicker you get used to the experience, and thus the quicker you can spice up your sex life or make the curiosity of anal sex as an occasional fun practice (I admit to having opted out of it from time to time, but mostly out of laziness.)

You can even buy a pack of latex gloves to make sure you get really clean. Yes. I'm saying to go in there. It's sanitary if you keep the gloves CLEAN, it's safer and it will even get you used to the experience. Then when you're clean and you know that you're clean you can even use your bare fingers (clean them!) to experience what that feels like. Make sure your nails are short or not sharp or jagged, and if you decide not to cut your nails you will always be able to have a good control of what part of your finger you're using - and you should be using the front of your finger not the VERY VERY tip. Generally speaking, it's not the "in and out" motion that does the trick, it's a rubbing around. I, of course, do not have a vagina, but I can't imagine that during female masturbation, you don't use your hand as a jackhammer. Be gentle. It's skin for god's sake. And it's sex, rough or not, there's a conscious, healthy limit to the quick and the hard.

And as for soaps - just no. I did once use Summer's Eve for an extra clean feel, but I stopped eventually and really it never made any more of a difference. IF you decide to use this, and I only recommend anything that's like Summer's Eve (hypoallergenic and all that stuff), be spare and use small amounts. Still the soap is not an imperative practice, but it does give a feeling of being cleaner.

Now for the feeling of water in your anus - it's a bit unpleasant. Your rectum and colon will harden and push out. Normally they push up against something, but when they push against themselves they create a very strong sensation inside you. It's bearable, but definitely not a good preview to anal intercourse. If you find that you can make it through that, then good for you. If you feel this is too much of hassle, it is very understandable. There are plenty of other ways to engage in other sexy taboos, and it's fine if anal is not your thing.

Afterward I always rub some Vaseline OUTSIDE of the anus, just a bit. Also keeps from any sweat that might build up. Skin is skin, anywhere you go, if you clean too long before the action goes down you might not smell great. It's nice to help this out. Even some creams will be nice, but nothing that has alcohol as it will dry you up. I did however once use Chanel No. 5 (Mademoiselle herself would turn in her grave) and it had a strangely arousing scent for my boyfriend.

And another tip in response to the person who said to starve yourself or the mentioning of only milk products: really? I mean I generally make sure I don't eat much before having sex - anal or not. It's just not a pleasant feeling to be all bloated from eating and then start thrashing around with your man - you know, if you're into that - so I agree, don't eat before it, but don't starve yourself. I have had hours worth of sex with meals that have been down to almost 2 hours apart once I feel that I can move normally again.

Don't do anything wilder than a decent cleaning, if you're going to do it at all. No need to starve yourself.

Also it helps that if you are cleaning with a douche or something alike, you empty out what you can at first. Once you see the coast is clear wait. Stand up, walk around if you must and wait till some of it keeps moving down. It's a process. Look up a picture of the colon and you'll understand.

I always do this before I shower, and with the rest of my shower activities it takes me up to an hour but it has taken me a little under 45 minutes before, with successfully clean sex following. It also really encourages bowel movements so digestion is faster. It's always good to go to the bathroom as many times as you eat (if you eat three meals a day, you s**t three meals a day) that way you have as little toxic residue leftover inside you. It's generally healthy, so there are benefits to this other than an other worldly orgasms. And so we segue into it.

THE SEX:

When you're ready to give it a go, you're not ready yet. First there is a very necessary amount of stimulation, mentally and physically

It's good if he, or she for the gals that strap on, just lightly pushes the tips of the fingers (avoid nails) and rubs around the anus and into where the genitals are. Be kind to yourself, do it slowly, create heat. The anus is a muscle, just like when you work out you need to get it warm and flexible, and if you're not even doing something similar for the vagina then that's a problem too. Foreplay is VERY necessary, and always fun. Don't make this too formulaic, I once just sat on the edge of my boyfriend's hip to massage myself around that area with his bone and it felt nothing short of amazing.

Then you can proceed with the fingers. Now I have to say, he may be good with the fingers, but you are always better. This of course can create some sort of conflict but if he doesn't mind, work yourself while he/she works you somewhere else. That dual sensation can get very rewarding and a nice intense build up. Again, keep a flow, keep it reasonably creative, and keep it fun.

If he/she insists so much and you decide to let them in, then tell them to go slowly, and to remember that it's not the "in and out" that gets the job done, but a rub, a massaging. Circles. Whatever works, just avoid the nail. I HAVE had cuts before, and they're treatable but still discomforting. It's imperative you remember just how sensible all this tissue and muscle is. With a penis it's fine, with nails, not so much. (And if you do bleed, do NOT go through extreme measures to clean yourself!!! Water alone, will have to do. Keep an eye on it, if the problem persists, though that's never happened with me, then consider a visit to the doctor.)

You'll know when you're ready. The walls of the rectum will feel more easily relaxed around your fingers, and if by this point the coast has been...clean, then you're more than ready for the flesh and blood. This does not mean he/she will just go in there all in a rush. Lubricants are essential and condoms are recommended and basically essential as well. You'd avoid any unnecessary possible complications with that (although I've never had a problem that I've been aware of with the occasionally bareback). Remind him to ease in slowly. The first time it goes in, it could feel really really great. If it cramps up, and you will most definitely know if it is cramping up, go back, warm up some more.

Now it's important to note that the anus will have blood flow into it (that's how the walls of the anus harden up to push out feces) so the flow from your genitals might flow into the anus eventually which means the anus will be tightening. This will feel good for the dominant role and it might cause some discomfort for you, but you'll be able to find a very rewarding balance eventually. Take it slow! It's all worth the build up.I've encountered some VERY intense orgasms as a result of anal sex, but it's a matter of keeping movement going. Sex is sex, no matter how you do it, you gotta keep at it, keep the moment going, keep both your minds engaged. It's psychology and physiology - keep both turned on. And talk is not novice and it's not trashy. If you're in a healthy relationship I believe the communication can be made possible and easy.

Afterward, clean. Even if you're deadbeat tired, clean. Just rinse out whatever is left in there (especially you naughties who opted out of the condom!).

There is a strong need for communication throughout the practice, especially if this is something new you're trying. If it hurts, don't think it's going to get better by just leaving it alone, do something, subtle if necessary, to make it feel good. You may be submitting, but you still have control of your body. And a little wrestling never hurt in bed.

Stay safe, happy and healthy! Sorry for the sermon, I felt you needed a more connected scenario. I'll try monitoring this in case you all have any questions. Good luck! Wink

Si cauta si filmul asta: "Nina Hartley - Guide to Anal sex"
pe torrente sau unde poti gasi. Atat, sper ca e destula informatie.
Bafta!

APROPO DE TAMPENIILE CU SEXUL ANAL SI ORAL NUMAI NISTE TIMPITI CARE NU GANDESC POT FACE ASA CEVA VATI PERDUT ORICE RATIUNE SUNTETI MAI RAI DECAT ANIMALELE ELE NU FAC ASA CEVA DUMNEZEU PT ASTA a lasat femeia acel vagin nu are alt rol decat de procreere focul iadului va va manca

sincer nu ma asteptam sa mai existe oameni asa ingusti la minte! cred ca avem pacate mult mai mari decat ca facem sex anal sau oral....poate ca judecam pe ceilalti e un pacat mai mare! si nu ziceti ca e o tampenie sau ca nu va place pana nu incercati...s-ar putea sa fiti uimiti cat de repede uitati de focul iadului!:)si in legatura cu numai tampitii fac asa ceva...poate ai dreptate...dar in cazul asta ..sunt o tampita care se simte a dracului de bine in pat!:)

da daca nu as stii c inseamna as spune dar lipsa educatiei sexuale pe multi ii impiedica s-o faca
daca esti sigur ca nu esti bruta poti s-o faci si chiar poartenerei sa ii placa asa ca spor la drum!!!!!!!!!!

Gasesc aici tot felul de argumente pro sex anal, oral, etc. Si aici sunt tot felul de mode.
Sunt lucruri pe care le auzi la Tv, prin reviste de calitatea XXXXXL.
Nici unul nu aude cuvantul lui Dumnezeu, care nu este moda. El este valabil peste milenii.
De altfel chiar El spune: "multe iti sunt ingaduite, dar putine iti sunt de folos".
Ingusti la minte nu sunt cei care-i respecta legile, ci cei care nu vad ca exista Dumnezeu si care ii incalca poruncile.
Dumnezeu iti permite sa faci sex normal, dar nu accepta perversiunile.
Exista oameni cu mintea clara care si-au gasit si drumul cel bun, dar exista si din cei rataciti care se lasa ademeniti de argumente de doi bani auzite la TV sau la prieteni.
Mai trebuie sa stiti ca pentru toate la un moment dat vine plata.

Se vede ca esti frustrata. :)) Pacat! Ce bun e un sex oral cateodata...
si pt o femeie... ca dupa ce o convingi sa te joci putin cu ea te tine de par sa nu mai pleci de acolo :) Nu va mai dati cu parerea daca sunteti frustrati/frustrate ca imbacsiti subiectul degeaba cu "puritatea" voastra! Uita-te ce intreaba omul, nu ce delirezi tu pe langa subiect!

Mihai să nu te plîngi pe urmă că te doare p..a. O să treacă pițini ani să o să-ți aduci aminte de cuvintele mele,dar o să fie tîrziu.

DACA o sa vina vremea cand isi va aminti de cuvintele tale, el va fi trait deja de 50 ori mai mult si mai frumos decat mediocritatea asta.

Cred ca sunt foarte multi de acord cu sexul anal si oral si sincer nu vad care e problema!

Nu sunt de acord pentru ca au prejudecati ca in evul mediu. Din toate timpurile au existat jocuri erotice, sex oral si anal si mereu unii au fost de acord, altii nu. Eu una as vrea sa experimentez orice fel de sex, cand voi gasi persoana potrivita :D

De ce sa nu practice, sa incerce?? Eu practic de 10 ani si nu am c.... rupt, cei cu voi fetelor. Noua ne face placere analsex, acu vreau sa-i fac surpriza sotului cu un strap on.

...problema este ca la inceput trebuie sa o inCURajezi bine !!! :))

ingust la minte >?nu stiu care ,vai si amar de oamenii din romania !de aia ne merge asa bine ca importam toate p***aile :( .ca la sodoma si gomora am ajuns!asa meritam sa murim,.Cei care se cred moderni in gandire sunt niste infecti din toate pctele de vedere

anisoara , sper sa te prinda un negru in lift in sa ti`o vare inp***a. nu numai ca o sa`ti placa , dar o sa`l alergi si o sa`l implori sa ti`o mai bage :)))